Category » Applied Philosophy & Psychology
Drinking (or Drugging) Alone
As regular readers may recall, I take requests! Late last year a reader asked if I could elaborate on why some people drink in groups and others drug alone. The last part is the theme of this blog, why some people drink alone. We’ll begin with what can be recalled on the spot. First, it […]
On Turning the Other Cheek IV
This is the final blog on the series about turning the other cheek, a response to a great question whose answer turned out to be more layered than anticipated. The final layer, taken from the subject passage from Matthew 5, of the New Testament, concerns prayer and our common inheritance. 38 Ye have heard that […]
On Turning the Other Cheek III
A few weeks ago, we began an exploration of what it meant to turn the other cheek. That concept, when traced back in time, seems to have originated in the Old Testament where the prevalent notion of fairness was the taking of one eye for one eye. The New Testament felt that retributive justice could […]
On Turning the Other Cheek II
We left off, last week, with the conclusion that congruent growth comes through honouring the self. In terms of cheek turning, that means that to grow as yourself, and not based on another’s judgment or direction, you must freely subscribe to that idea. In plainer terms, if you are told by a teacher or aunt […]
On Turning the Other Cheek
I suspect this will be a difficult blog to write. It is an exploration of the human impacts of turning the other cheek. We’ll do a few things. First, we’ll try to understand what was meant in Matthew 5 in the New Testament of the Bible. Secondly, we’ll look at how that unfolds at different […]
One Day is as All Days
One day is as all days. I read that line this past summer and made a note to put it on the dissection table. Today that dissection begins. The first meaning is that waiting for the right day is the wrong approach. That’s a difficult premise to accept if you buy into the Stages of […]
Emotionally Immature Parents
The origin of this blog is a psychologist’s thread of tweets seen while I was researching and writing about attachment. The causal relationship between emotionally immature parents and insecurely attached children was glaring, if in need of more rigorous exploration. That psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera’s argument begins with four premises: Emotionally Immature Parents (EIP) lack […]
Attachment as Life Long Forcefield II
Last week we ended with a description, from the Vancouver M.D. Gabor Maté, of the role of stressors in the relationship between a parent (or primary caregiver) and an infant. The word usually associated with that relationship is attachment. Holmes (2015, p. 209) defines attachment as “…the reciprocity upon which individuals’ survival, developmental progress, and […]
Attachment: A Life Long Forcefield
There’s a concept that keeps recurring in readings, papers, and case conferences. That term is attachment. Attachment, within psychology, is “An emotionally important relationship in which one individual seeks proximity to, and derives security from, the presence of another, particularly infants to parental figures” (Atkinson & Tomley, 2012, p. 340). On a timeline of 20th-century […]
Choice Points & Stuck Points
Choice points occur everyday. An informal definition of a choice point is a moment in which a decision is required before moving forward on one of the available paths before you. This can be as simple as having some cranberry juice, water, or cola. At that thirsty moment, when you open the refrigerator, the choice […]